So often in this world, we are encouraged to push down our feelings, wants, and needs so that we don’t take up too much space or inconvenience anyone. We worry that if we embody our true self, we won’t be accepted or fit in with others. They may judge, criticize, dislike, or even outright reject us. These fears lead us to abandon ourselves and become chameleons who blend in and adapt simply to please others. We play small, conform, and eventually lose touch with who we are, how we feel, and what we want and need. This lack of identity can happen slowly over time without us even realizing it. This year, join me in re-connecting with your authentic self, learning to tap into your unique power and make a contribution in this world. We all have a special purpose and reason for existence on this planet, and it is our duty to share it with the world. We need the authentic YOU - you matter!

As I reflect on how codependent tendencies show up in my daily life, I notice that sharing my full authentic self with others can still be a challenge for me. I have a tendency to keep the focus off myself, asking others questions about themselves and not providing many details about what is happening in my own life. I am so accustomed to caring what others think of me and wanting to present as the person who “has it all together,” especially because I am a mental health provider. In truth, no one has it together 24/7 because that is not realistic for humans going through the ups-and-downs of daily life. And I know that deep, genuine, and meaningful social connection occurs when we are vulnerable with one another. That is how we relate to others and feel less alone in this world.